On yesterday, I had a spontaneous BBQ at my house where my family and friends ate, fellowshipped, and watched the NBA basketball game. It was a nice event. Though it was last minute, and I had work to do, we were able to cook some food, people chipped in and brought sides and we had a great time. It was very relaxing. I felt complete. I’ve been doing a lot with work and organizations I’m a part of, so I haven’t been focusing on my personal life lately. As I reflect on yesterday, I thought of an important lesson, particularly to the “busy” people: No matter how successful you are professionally or civically, you have to take time out to spend time and enjoy your family.
“The love of a family is life’s greatest blessing.”- unknown
Throughout my adult live, my goal has been to impact every person that I come in contact with and to change the World to make it a better place. While this aim is lofty, and demands a lot of my time, energy, and resources, I’ve showed some progress. I’m a part of a company whose mission is to motive and inspire children to achieve excellence academically, I’m affiliated with organizations that, from their missions, focuses on the advancement of people socially, economically, and spiritually; and within those organizations, I’m blessed that the members recognize me as a leader, which allows me to move into leadership positions. With all of this, I forgot to focus on my family. I’m missing out on God’s greatest blessing.
I often assume my family will be there. That they don’t need me. That they understand what I’m doing and will support me, even if I don’t support them and their efforts. That’s not the right thing to do. I have two nieces and nephews, and my goal is to illustrate a strong, caring, successful man in their lives. It can be gone in numerous ways: giving them money, gifts, tickets, but the most impactful way is to show them I care by being in their lives. I want my nephews to see me at their soccer/football games. I want my nieces to see me at their recitals. Kids don’t care about money… they care about love and support.
How can I do this? What can I (we) do in order to improve our families? I admit I am a hypocrite. I realize I need to spend more time my family (particularly with my nieces and nephews) so they can understand their Uncle Matt. When this happens, the Houston and Hunter family will grow even stronger because positive adults are impacting America’s future. The same applies to our society. We need spend more positive time with our young people. Our youth, though rebellious, wants direction and boundaries (boundaries is the only way we tell someone is defiant…). Let’s be that positive role model for them. Sure the road is not easy, but it’s well worth it.